Two People Shaking Hands Over Desk representing asking for a favor

When I am not writing or teaching, I spend the majority of my workday managing email. Like you, I receive many emails that are useless and insignificant. And occasionally, I get an email from someone who wants some free advice or is asking for a favor.

When I have the time, I will try my best to respond to each and every email, especially those that come from my loyal Protocol Post subscribers, which was the case in this situation. I know this because the e-newsletter was attached to Ms. Ponnell’s email. But the average person would most likely delete an email like this because it lacks the proper ingredients to warrant a response. When composing an email, particularly someone you don’t know well, please heed the following advice.

Greet Me

An email that doesn’t contain my name gives me a clue that you might have sent this question to a multitude of experts. Dale Carnegie tells us that the sweetest sound to a person’s ear is the sound of their own name. Well, I like to see my name in print too. It shows that you have taken the time to personalize your message when asking for a favor or for my advice.

Enlighten Me

In general, I will assume that I don’t know you unless you tell me how we met or know one other. Did we meet at a luncheon or a seminar? Did someone refer you to me? I meet and speak with a lot of people, as I’m sure you do too, so please refresh my memory.

Flatter Me

Sometimes I will get an email that requires me to stop what I’m doing and make an effort to do a little research in order to answer the question. I am more apt to help you if you have done something to help me. Do you subscribe to my blog or e-newsletter? Have you attended one of my classes? Have you read my book, purchased one of my products or referred me to someone you know? If you do something nice for me, I am eager to reciprocate the favor.

Be Specific

Not all emails are clear, concise, or contain all the facts. Therefore, if your email does not contain pertinent information, I can’t give you my best answer. Make sure you give as many facts as possible without making the email too long.

Give Me a Deadline

If you need an answer right away, let me know. Otherwise, I will assume that your email is not time-sensitive.

Thank Me

Your email may require research and time on my part. If I take the time to respond, please send me an email in return that expresses your thanks for my efforts. Better yet, let me know how the situation turned out if you did take my advice. This way I will know that my efforts were worthwhile and that gives me great satisfaction.

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